tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-800199068470468980.post985335973571152957..comments2023-10-12T07:37:07.546-04:00Comments on Le Chrysalis: Abusers reform then help othersMaryMhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03700976273153747682noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-800199068470468980.post-50439928409980982992006-11-06T19:17:00.000-05:002006-11-06T19:17:00.000-05:00I agree, it doesn't/shouldn't take 3x of s...I agree, it doesn't/shouldn't take 3x of someone becoming violent to show that they are an abuser! The abusive tendencies are there, much sooner then the 3x! Yes, abusers can change, but not all have that capability! There needs to be more help for those that abuse. There needs to be more understanding and true compasion to help abusers. No, not all can change, but those that want help and can see that they have a problem may! There isn't enough out there to help those that would abuse, being it male, female, Mother or Father. So many more would be saved if something would be done earlier on. So many more victims would be safe if only someone would hear, and help.......<br>tbMary's Worldhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05822991215725022384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-800199068470468980.post-21234122468469891352006-11-07T13:58:00.000-05:002006-11-07T13:58:00.000-05:00I was unable to link to the first story, however t...I was unable to link to the first story, however the second one was enlightening.<br><br>My thoughts:<br>Forgive me, please!<br><br>I think that it is awesome that there is a man that wants to make a change. That he had acknowledged that he had issues. I commend him for going public, and taking steps to help out other abusers, however the problem that I have with it is this....<br><br>I DO NOT believe that many men/woman after abusing are capable of understanding what they have done. Whether it be mental illness, drugs, financial issues, ect. I feel that it does not take 3 times before they become aware. Unfortunatly most of the time an abuser never realizes what he/ she has done, therefore the behavior continues onto other victims. <br><br>I do not believe that understanding nor compassion will help an abuser, infact the more compassion and understanding that you show them, I feel the more you enable them. Remember that abusers feed on it being "all about them, and their feelings".<br>I believe that from early on, these abusers have abnormal tendencies if you will. They demonstrate behavior that is dangerous well before they strike out. They have been taught that there in no repurcussions for their actions. Like any other child, these men/woman grow up to believe that they are superior than most, and they become more comfortable doing what they do best, abuse. <br><br>In order for an abuser to change, they must first understand that what they are doing/have done is wrong. Most are incapable of that action.<br>The ones that do understand and actually change should recieve kudos! <br>I am not saying that they never change, I am saying that so sad, rarely do they change...<br><br>OK that was 5cents worth!<br>Blessings, ValerieValeriehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07853459903949171001noreply@blogger.com