tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-800199068470468980.post8098197088299496530..comments2023-10-12T07:37:07.546-04:00Comments on Le Chrysalis: When domestic violence erupts, what should a neighbor do?MaryMhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03700976273153747682noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-800199068470468980.post-9484123351580447602008-05-26T20:18:00.000-04:002008-05-26T20:18:00.000-04:00why didn't she leave earlier, if she stays and...why didn't she leave earlier, if she stays and the abuse is still happening then what she gets is on her, she can leave at anytime, why must she wait for a neighbor are anyone else to interveneAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-800199068470468980.post-72167127176587150422008-05-27T16:42:00.000-04:002008-05-27T16:42:00.000-04:00In most cases physical abuse is the not the first ...In most cases physical abuse is the not the first type of abuse in a relationship. By the time the abuse escalates to physical the abuser has convinced the victim that they can not leave, can not get help, or won't make it on their own if they try. Most victims are also told they will be killed or that their family will be if they attempt to leave. No, a victim doesn't hae to wait until a neighbor helps them...however, a neighbor shouldn't sit and listen to the beatings night after night without offering to help. Just knowing that someone cares enough even to let a victim use the phone to call for help is enough to get that call made.Mary's Worldhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03700976273153747682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-800199068470468980.post-30517729580869213252008-05-28T00:05:00.000-04:002008-05-28T00:05:00.000-04:00Actually, this is a question so many ask that have...Actually, this is a question so many ask that have never been through DV, and many who are in it ask themselves. Here's 2 links that may help a bit if you are truly interested: http://www.uaadv.org/Info-DV-WhyDoWeStay.html <br>http://www.uaadv.org/Info-DV-WhyVictimsStayOrReturn.html<br> In a nutshell, there's so many reasons that a victim doesn't leave. Most victims of DV have a low self esteem, lack of resources, lack of money, and are afraid to leave because of threats and not knowing what to do or where to go once gone. So many don't know that they can leave, that they can make it, because they've been told for so long that they just can't.<br> I agree with Mary, sometimes it's that neighbor stepping up and stepping in that could save a life. Sometimes, just knowing that a neighbor cares, that someone else doesn't think it's right, is enough for a victim to get the help that they need.DV Abolitionisthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16941452603734091579noreply@blogger.com